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Self-Confidence & Self-Esteem
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Do you:
- put yourself down?
- find it hard to believe in yourself and so reject compliments?
- compare yourself unfavourably with others?
- think you’re not good enough?
- have trouble standing up for yourself?
Would you like to overcome these hurdles and increase your confidence?
Your first step is to book a FREE 20-minute Zoom or phone call. You can explain what’s led you to get in touch and find out what coaching is and how it helps.
What is self-confidence? What is self-esteem?
Are they the same, or different?
Self-esteem is your inner sense of self-worth, valuing who you are without constantly needing the agreeement or validation from others. This personal right underlines the ability to behave assertively: I have the right to relate to people without being dependent on them for approval. It is difficult to state an opinion, make or refuse a request if you submit entirely to the views of others. It is beneficial by communicating assertively to both put your point of view and maintain good relationships.
Self-confidence is to trust in yourself – your judgment, your abilities and professional competencies and take action in order to accomplish your goals in life. It is also how you present yourself, how you come across & so how others perceive you, as confident or unconfident.
In a nutshell, self-esteem is the human being and self-confidence, the human doing!
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How can Lucy Seifert Life Coach London help?
Anyone can experience crises of confidence.
Life Coaching helps you dispel your doubts & focus on your talents & well-being. You will overcome these self-defeating beliefs and develop a newfound confidence.
Together we identify the areas to work on, what is holding you back, and the steps forward.
Where relevant and helpful, we may work on developing skills within coaching sessions such as assertiveness, confident communication – verbal and non-verbal (body language), conflict resolution, interview and meeting skills, public speaking, relationship building and time management.
For other skills, we discover the best way for you to acquire them.
We work also on uncovering and highlighting your existing skills and talents.
You can also grow your assertiveness & confidence with my self-help guide.
How does confidence coaching work?
Confidence coaching will build or enhance your self-esteem and confidence. This includes recognising the qualities and skills you have, as well as which to enhance or acquire. It may involve speaking up for yourself personally or at work, becoming more proactive, developing the ability to accept compliments and to be able to express appreciation and give positive feedback to others.
You can increase your confidence by developing positive body language and so be perceived by others as confident. Confidence coaching also involves finding strategies to address situations where you would like to feel more confident than you do at present and to take action and initiative to achieve the goals you set for yourself.
Coaching is usually online, via Zoom. See my booking and fees options here.
Ideally you will work towards greater self-esteem and self-confidence. While having innate self-esteem will increase your confident self-presentation, acting and behaving with confidence will also enhance your inner self-esteem. Together they comprise your personal power, that sense of self-belief combined with the ability to translate them into positive action.
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There is a myriad of ways to enhance your self-respect and personal power, such as not comparing yourself to others, being able to handle criticism on the one hand and conversely to accept happily the compliments that come your way. You may wish to explore strategies and skills to deal with difficult people and to challenge put downs or other unpleasant and intimidating behaviours.
Here is an interesting confidence boosting activity for you to try. Imagine you are your best friend or a work peer or senior who truly values you. Write a description of your skills and values from their perspective, in the third person. Now turn the ‘he’ or ‘she’ into ‘I’ statements, and read it aloud! Thus “She is a person of great integrity” becomes “I am a person of great integrity”.
Confidence self-assessment
Considering the following questions will help you assess the areas of your life where you feel confident and where you would like to increase your confidence.
- In which areas of your life would you like to enhance your confidence (a) work & career or (b) in personal matters, with family & friends, or (c) both?
- On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being high, how shy do you feel (a) in social situations or (b) when you stand up and speak to a group of people?
- How nervous do you feel at interviews, slightly or considerably?
- How much do you worry about exams, slightly or considerably? ?
- On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being high, how concerned do you feel when you start a new job or role, or manage staff for the first time?
- Are you at university and finding it hard to settle in or keep up with academic demands?
- Are you at the top of your field, facing challenges and high expectations? Does it ever feel lonely at the top?
“I have landed my first lectureship and am very happy. I wanted to let you know as you helped get my confidence back up and made me realise that I do indeed have lots of talents that are very highly regarded.”
